Each of us plays a key role in changing our community and creating a safe and respectful environment.
Quick and Easy Ways to help
- Participate in “Thursdays In Black.”
- Listen to someone who tells you about their experience.
- Find out more about gender oppression discrimination and interpersonal violence.
- Check out the BridgeBlog: http://srubridgeblog.blogspot.com.
- Donate old cell phones to HOPEline: www.verizonwireless.com.
- Be a positive role model.
- Donate to a shelter’s “Wish List.”
- Look out for and respect others.
- Recognize oppression.
In the heat of the moment you can help by…
If you think someone is in trouble, ask if they are okay. Be honest and direct in explaining your concerns and reasons for intervening. If you don’t feel comfortable approaching a situation on your own, ask someone else to help. You aren’t wrecking someone’s fun or being a jerk if you speak up. You are watching out for someone’s brother, sister, girlfriend, boyfriend, best friend…
In your own personal interactions you can…
Listen for YES. In the heat of an intimate encounter, it may seem trivial. It may seem unnecessary. We have always been taught that no means no and while that is very true, YES is vital to healthy sexual relationships. Yes is not: “maybe” , “later”, “I don’t know/I’m not sure”, Doing or saying nothing, sex shouldn’t be a “game”. Healthy sex is all about the “yes”.
Recognize that healthy interactions are mutually beneficial and harm no one. Having healthy relationships means not treating people as sex objects or using sex to control another person. It means giving each other space and individuality in a relationship. Healthy relationships allow partners to speak for themselves. Threats or manipulation are not used against each other. Healthy sex means asking for consent, not proceeding until getting a “yes”, and accepting a “no” when they hear one.
Talk openly about healthy sex with your friends and more importantly with your sexual partners. Talk about what feels right in a relationship when it comes to sexual consent and boundaries. Be there for friends who might be struggling through unhealthy relationships. Listen openly and provide resources.
Thursdays in Black
Thursdays in Black is an international event. It began as a grassroots response to rape and violence against women in Argentina in early 1970’s. During that time in Argentina, women were being raped, murdered, and disappearing in alarming numbers. In, response local feminist organizers begin organizing “Thursdays in Black” to raise awareness about the violence that women faced, and to put pressure on governmental officials to do more to stop the violence.
Since those beginnings, Thursdays in Black has been taken up by communities in Bosnia, Israel, the Sudan, New Zealand, and throughout Europe. It has more recently begun happening in the United States, mostly on college campuses. The Bridge Project initiated the campaign on this campus for the first time in 2004.
Sexual Assault, domestic violence and stalking has an impact on all parts of our campus and community you can be an easy part of the solution by showing your opposition to violence by participating in our silent protest each week.
Simply wear black every Thursday. There are free pins in the Women’s Center or you can purchase one of our TIB t-shirts for $10.